Avoidant Attachment: Why Closeness Can Feel Like Losing Yourself.
Someone wants to talk about "where this is going." Someone asks how you're feeling, and asks again when your answer felt too short. And something in you pulls back. Not because you don't care. Because closeness, past a certain point, starts to feel like it's asking you to disappear a little. If that's familiar, you might be recognizing avoidant attachment — and it's often misread as coldness or not caring, when really, it's a nervous system that learned self-reliance was the safer bet. The pulling away isn't rejection. It's usually an attempt to protect something that once genuinely needed protecting. 🤍